A fair play

People have preferences for various things for various reasons. The differentiating factor in human beings is their behavior except the anatomy. How their behavior differs is a resultant of their differing social setups. As human being is an irrational social animal, he lives with commonly accepted ideas and beliefs of the society he belongs to. But when the same human being comes out of his social well, he finds it difficult to adjust in a different society. He becomes hesitant to others culture and always keeps his back towards the new setups. To justify his claim he starts to rationalize his thinking. His thinking is reflected in his actions and hence prejudice. He has a skew view towards other groups; sometime knowingly and sometime unknowingly.
Day in and day out, we find ourselves surrounded with such prejudiced souls. The number of people with biases in one or more area is phenomenal and none of us can claim in totality of not being such a soul. It is one of the most dangerous disease human beings are suffering from.

Is there any possibility of normalizing unfairness through a completely rational system?

Everyone wants to listen to his own voice

Everyone wants to listen to his own voice
One of the best phrases, I have encountered in my life. It took me only 3 minutes to appreciate the phrase verbally but 3 years to realize its practical value in today’s ERA OF PREJUDICE.

In today’s era when individualism is touching new heights, everyone is engaged in proving others that what he thinks may not be correct but it is right. We can take it as an unwanted parcel came with the modernization of India. Now there is a conviction, self belief. One thinks that his thought process is absolutely right and there is no need to pay heeds to others view. People (Gen Nex) lack other orientation. Their approach is if I am Happy everyone is Happy. If people around me suffer let them. At the end of the day I should be happy. There is a serious flaw in this thinking. How long would you be able to derive benefit out of others without bothering about them? Only till the point others has respect for your views and ideas. The day you meet your ideological replica, you will be under tremendous stress. As the number of individualistic characters in society increases, you will have more probability of not feeling well out of meeting such people. In a way, you are not only troubling others but you are buying stress for yourself.

From economy prospective when consumerism is driven solely by the feelings of consumers, a manager not having other orientation as his inherent strength can not do justice to his job. One of the major reason for the failure of an economic entity is that it tries to drive the market as it wants, do not change itself as market wants. All these things points out that there is a strong need for caring others. Self confinement makes your thinking narrow. In an envisaged integrated world, can we think of individuals who are separate entity and are ideological disarray? No we can’t. Either our dream would remain dream forever or the individuals with self centered approach will cease to exist. Whatever happens, we will see a completely new society in years to come.



I would like to end this article by the following words

Caring others means catering yourself


Reference :
Saswata Dey, Who introduced me to the title phrase. I am not sure but it could be his brainchild.

Difference in absolute and relative grading

In the absoloute grading u ask ur friends" study otherwise you will fail " In relative you say " Dont study otherwise I will fail?"

This link is simply superb. Use speakers while going through it. www.thedreammovie.com is the link. really inspiring.....

Just like business cycle where start, growth, maturity and decline are the phases, there is group cycle. wondering what is this group cycle. When many people with diverse backgrounds, tastes and aspiration meet and form a group, the group follows the following cycle:

I'll do it: They all do not accept the views of others and want others to agree upon their views. For sake of it they are ready to handle the whole assignment/ Project on their own.
This stage remains for very short period.

You'll do it: The second stage of group is very interesting. Everyone says the same statement but for different reasons

>> Few guys who got exhausted after first few days of extra enthu performance
>> Those who were blamed earlier for dismal performance of the group. They can further be subdivided
a> one who have realized their mistakes (very few)
b> those who have” Now I see how will u do it" in back of their mind
>> Those that lacks self confidence and want to live in the shadow of others
>> Last but not the least our lazy bone and royal kings.

We'll do it: By this stage, everyone has understood that they are in the same boat. Now they got divided in small groups for assignments and projects and try to live with the differences.

Who'll do it: Nobody is interested; nobody wants to talk to anyone. They don't even want to see the face of each other. (Dilemma: who will do the assignment)? The scapegoat is generally a studious type of guy who loves his grades more than anything else. If there is no such person in the group than that group survives on the mercy of Profs.

From few days I am observing one thing. There is always mob in front of devil board (our grade board in front of class. for my convenience I will call it Hahakar). Hahakar has got more audience in Tapmi than a matinee show viewers. You will find some stupids ( Hahakaris) always standing over there. Sometimes it seems like this that Hahakar is the only place except class where they can be found out in the college. There is a totally unique breed of such people. It looks like they are doing PhD on grades distribution. Moreover, Hahakaris are not at all selfish. They keep track of everyone's grade. They always encourages people who has got grades less than them (Pat themselves) and curses themselves when they meet anyone who has got more grades. Most of them would be absent from all the events which are ungraded and need some mind scratching. A hahakari would typically ask 10-30 people their grades in a day.

One of my favourite lyrics. I like it very much. A classic . It's every line somewhere touches me very deeply.

hazaaron Khvaahishen aisii ki har Khvaaish pe dam nikale bahut nikale mere armaaN lekin phir bhii kam nikale
nikalanaa Khuld se aadam kaa sunate aaye hain lekin bahut beaabaruu hokar tere kuuche se ham nikale
muhabbat men nahiin hai farq jiine aur marane kaa usii ko dekh kar jiite hain jis kaafir pe dam nikale
Khudaa ke vaaste pardaa na kaabe se uThaa zaalim Kahiin aisaa na ho yaaN bhii vahii kaafir sanam nikale
KahaaN maiKhaane ka daravaazaa 'Ghalib' aur kahaaN vaaiz par itanaa jaanate hain kal vo jaataa thaa ke ham nikale

Shaks Unlimited

Now, when I am fed up of writing on paper, Google Blog seems to me a perfect option to share my thoughts, feelings and happenings. Life in Tapmi is getting tougher day by day. Theme 5 is going to start. Supposedly, the toughest theme. But I have learnt to live with continuous pressure without losing my smile.